Thanks God I have been educated in a family which has shown me to forgive. I am the third brother of four and so I have had to forgive my brothers as I have been forgiven by them numerous times, it was the daily bread at home…

Fights were very frequent at home with my brothers when we were younger, as we are all only three years older from each other we had lots of fun playing different games, but those games magically ended being an intense dispute between us all and I can perfectly remember that the fights were carried out between teams. So one day I could be allied with my oldest brother but the following day I would be willing to kill him, and the same happened with the rest…

The worse was when, no matter how, I achieved the feat of having all my three brothers against me, then I knew trouble was about to come and was the one punished at night when my dad came back from work; my dad was the punisher because my mum’s punishes were simply too soft. What didn’t help was that my brothers and I were at home being babysitted by a babysitter that couldn’t really take control of the situation.

When you grow up you start to have bigger issues and those issues get harder and harder to solve as time goes by,  those issues normally take place outside home, specially at school with people that is around you every single day; at the teenage period is when you first realize how important the value of forgiving is and after many discussions with close friends you get to know the importance of forgiveness in a friendship.

Friends are those who tell you the bad things to your face but cover and defend you at your back, I define this as the basic principle of a true friendship. We could make a kind of “equation” made by values that can perfectly describe what a friendship is,  these values are:loyalty, respect,patience, pride, care,trust… but there is a word that can never be missed and that word is forgiveness, it is an essential value, because if we face reality we know that two friends have to have discussions along life and who is going to solve a problem if not them by forgiving? The opposite of forgiving is rancor and rancor does not lead to a worthwile friendship, it leads to hate and indolence.

I widely believe that conversing with a friend leads to a stronger friendship, because those who with you spend more time talking are those who you trust more. Not this only applies to friends but to family as well, you must have a member of your family who you understand better and it is probably the same one you most speak with too. That does not mean you love him/her more but that means you trust him/her more.